It’s quite strange, the position we view from, and the position from which we might expect to be viewed. By and large we probably don’t notice because there’ll generally be a common theme, our position in our lives and society pretty much predictable. But whether we’re looked up to or down upon, whether we’re lauded and revered or criticised and despised there’s a falsehood and unrealistic assumption there.
Which of us knows everything? Yet if we’re looked to for answers we can tend to play the role, and to wing it even if we don’t have a clue what we’re talking about, and perhaps also may tend to conceal our vulnerabilities, even if the sharing of them may help both ourselves and others, or to tend to defend our position rather than keep our ears open for real learning and growing, which would realistically enhance the position we have. Conversely, if we’re someone who is considered clueless, for whatever reason (age, lack of experience, lack of education, disability etc), or we feel badly about ourselves, or we find it hard to be articulate, then even if we come out with something of great merit it’s likely to be ignored (including by us), or we may consider ourselves to be invisible, or without value or worth. But whether looked up to or down upon it’s likely we’ll be quite taken aback, quite possibly angry or confused, when our imagined position is ignored or we’re treated differently from that which we expect.
Yet realistically, however long we’ve been around, however much we’ve worked at it, however much natural insight we may have, we are not superior; and however young, inexperienced, damaged or disabled we have something to bring to the table. If and when we refuse to hear or see it otherwise we are not only in error but we’ve taken the unrealistic strategy of imagining we’re separate from it all. We are not.