Look me in the eye

It’s quite strange, the position we view from, and the position from which we might expect to be viewed. By and large we  probably don’t notice because there’ll generally be a common theme, our position in our lives and society pretty much predictable. But whether we’re looked up to or down upon, whether we’re lauded and revered or criticised and despised there’s a falsehood and unrealistic assumption there.

Which of us knows everything? Yet if we’re looked to for answers we can tend to play the role, and to wing it even if we don’t have a clue what we’re talking about, and perhaps also may tend to conceal our vulnerabilities, even if the sharing of them may help both ourselves and others, or to tend to defend our position rather than keep our ears open for real learning and growing, which would realistically enhance the position we have. Conversely, if we’re someone who is considered clueless, for whatever reason (age, lack of experience, lack of education, disability etc), or we feel badly about ourselves, or we find it hard to be articulate, then even if we come out with something of great merit it’s likely to be ignored (including by us), or we may consider ourselves to be invisible, or without value or worth. But whether looked up to or down upon it’s likely we’ll be quite taken aback, quite possibly angry or confused, when our imagined position is ignored or we’re treated differently from that which we expect.

Yet realistically, however long we’ve been around, however much we’ve worked at it, however much natural insight we may have, we are not superior; and however young, inexperienced, damaged or disabled we have something to bring to the table. If and when we refuse to hear or see it otherwise we are not only in error but we’ve taken the unrealistic strategy of imagining we’re separate from it all. We are not.


6 thoughts on “Look me in the eye

  1. I assume that the ambiguity regarding how much we really know (or don’t know) concerns matters of philosophy or anything else that’s open for debate. (As opposed to matters of fact that can simply be looked up in order to dissipate any confusion as to what’s what.) When it comes to things that aren’t so clear cut, I often encourage debate, though I’ll admit that I’ll be quite critical of my own postulations and try to find ways to refute them long before I ever make them public. I think this may have quite a bit to do with the satisfaction that I draw from being right. (As opposed to the fear of being proven wrong, since the instant I know I’m wrong, I’m obviously no longer embracing that position.)

    I realize that this is kind of a hit-and-miss response / commentary on your post, but it’s what came to mind as I read it.

    • Not really. While there are some fairly predictable aspects of life, and experts who know how to do them (for example if I needed some bespoke speakers I’d be more likely to come to you than attempt to make them myself, or go to a surgeon if I needed something removing from my body rather than get my scalpel out) the notion of fact and truth is far looser and less easily pinned down than we might often like to believe. Of course you understand that I work with the mind, in a variety of ways, and in all of this one is feeling out for ways to see what’s going on or to communicate in the myriad ways available. There may be quite a few repeatedly verifiable predictors or understood elements but one never has all the facts to hand and there are always unseen variables. But this is also true of more tangible subjects. it really isn’t a question of looking up the facts and presenting them. Just because anyone can now look up anything online doesn’t mean they’ve even begun to scratch the surface of the subject. Nothing has a simple formulaic answer, or if it does it will only ever be part of the story. As for being ‘right’ it’s largely a question of perspective. Those who tend to loudly and repeatedly state the obviousness of how right they are are usually miles from reality. Those who attack others for daring to see things differently are even further away. I can respect anyones perspective (or nearly anyones) but that’s usually all it is. Hard and fast facts are uncommon, even in areas where there is tangible physical evidence and repeatable verifiable outcomes. It’s always wise to keep a door open for further information. Science would fall flat on its face if it failed to do so, research would be at an end and life would be neatly tied up in a package. it ain’t going to happen.

      Hit and miss is fine. Communication is built on it.

  2. Follow the optic nerve……’come into my parlour’ said the spider to the fly 😉 I want to freeze-frame…..put out feelers for something more essencial, more sacred, more human, in the gap, in the pact….

  3. No problem, Cathy and thanks for forbearance. There’s probably a ‘confession’ or should I say eye-opener for myself in there somehwere 🙂

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